Savvy Shopping Moms was asked to write an article for the launch of a web site called Simple Saving Savvy. I only know Amanda from emails we have exchanged, but she is doing a great job on her site. Make sure you check it out.
Needs vs. Wants
Keeping up with the Joneses
Several years ago my husband and I wanted to start our family. We sat down and looked at our finances knowing that I would be staying home with a little one and our income would be cut in half. We started to look at where we could cut our expenses. Little did we know that your expensive actually go up when you have a child!
We soon noticed that we accumulated several “things” that were now gathering dust in our garage or basement. We had spent our hard earned money on frivolous stuff just to “keep up with the Joneses”. We had also spent huge amounts of money on eating out and convenience foods because I couldn’t keep track of what we had at home. We knew this had to change. We were wasting too much of our income on things we didn’t need.
One night we sat down and made a list of bills we had to pay, like the mortgage and car payments and utilities. Next, we wrote a list of things we would like to have but didn’t need, like a newer car and furniture. Along side of that, we also wrote our financial goals and the date by which that goal would be accomplished. We posted these on our fridge knowing that we would look at them several, if not hundreds of times, every day since the kitchen was the hub of our house. As the year went by we started to accomplish our goals and realize that this was something we could do.
We started to give more of our money to God and He blessed us beyond measure. I realized that I had been so selfish thinking that I had to have it all and that I had to “keep up with others” when they were just trying to keep me up with me. What a sad thought!
In June of 2008, my husband was given a wonderful opportunity to move to Kansas and work with an amazing church. This move was hard on us in more ways than one. We had to completely trust God during this move that He would supply us with a home we could afford and schools that would enrich our children’s lives. The hardest part of this move would be the cut in pay he would take. I knew we would have cut corners again, but where? That’s where the trust in God part kicked in. My husband and I talked and we decide that we would go back to our “lists” and retrain ourselves to be better stewards of the blessings God had given us.
Today, we are still on a budget so we can put more money into our savings. I don’t worry about how much someone else has. I praise God that He has blessed them. We love our church family and the ability that God has given me to share savings secrets with others.
Do you find yourself in the same situation? Here are some of the steps that we took to help us with our Needs VS. Wants
- Ask yourself, Can I function without this? Do you really have to have the newest and biggest HDTV? Be Honest!
- Wait – Wait for 3 days before you make any new purchase. Think about when you shop, do you buy the first thing you see? Are you an emotional shopper? Do you have the kids with you making it hard to make the right decision? Have you heard of people who freeze their credit cards in a bowl of water so they can’t make impulse purchases?
- Make your lists! Make a list of your NEEDS and WANTS. Look at them and see what will benefit your family the most. Is it worth Dad or Mom spending extra hours at the office so you can afford the newest gaming system? OR Would a family fun night with homemade pizza and a Redbox movie bring you closer together?
Today, I still want to buy new clothes every season and new dishes every month, but I don’t. I am learning to be happy and content with what I have been given. I am a work in progress and I still have a ways to go, but I know that the “wants “ I give up today will mean better things for my children in the years to come.







